-Misery Loves Company-

     The question of what women want has often been debated. And this may come as no surprise but there is no answer. Sometimes, women don’t even know what they want until they find it.

     It’s especially worse for me because I change my mind at the same rate an American regrets voting for Bush. But oh well, I thought it would be fun to list down who/what I’m looking for (at this point). Here goes:

1) He has to make me laugh      

This is a no-brainer. If a guy can’t make me laugh, then there is no way I would even consider him. I like laughing. I like people who don’t take themselves too seriously. I can’t stand people who raises their eyebrow sarcastically and call you juvenile if you are silly sometimes. And with life the way it is, don’t we all need someone fun? Class clown or rebel without a cause? Hand Bozo over to me anyday!

2) He has to be sensitive and supportive

Bad boys are fun for awhile but honestly if you’ve just lost your job, your mum just called to remind you how everyone’s married with kids and some joker drove over a puddle and splashed mud all over your brand new dress, who do you want to go home to? A guy who turns up the volume of the TV over your voice and says, "Stop complaining"? Or a guy who gives you a hug and tells you everything’s going to be okay because you both are together now?

3) He has to love me enough to tell me when I’m wrong

I want a guy who is secure enough and strong enough to tell me when I’ve made a mistake. That would make me a better person. Sure I love to be pampered like the next girl but not to the extend where I’m wrapped up in my own world and harm others. A great relationship makes you stronger and changes you for the better. But he also has to admit his own mistakes and say sorry when he’s wrong.

4) He has to be my buddy first

It’s important to me that a guy has to be my friend first. People are more truthful and genuine when they are friends whereas most put on an act in a relationship. I want to be able to tell my special someone everything and not hold back from sharing secrets, jokes, sillyness and dreams. If I’m not comfortable enough to call you bum or tell you one of my favourite phrases is ‘f*ck a duck’, then you’re probably not for me.

5) He has to refrain from telling fart jokes

Despite 17 years of being alive, I have yet to stop finding poop and burps and farts gross. I doubt I would be able to handle it if say, a date jumps up from the dinner table and starts performing an armpit solo rendition of BSB’s ‘All I Have to Give’. Trust me, I would start a physical rendition of ‘Sucker Punch’ by Bowling for Soup.

6) He doesn’t have to like all the things I like

Haha, I’m not looking for a clone. My guy doesn’t have to like reading or writing or scents or reading shampoo bottle labels. He should have his own personality. But I would love it if he loves the kind of music I do. Would I be able to handle listening to rap and country all day long? Maybe not. Also, he has to like animals. It doesn’t matter whether he likes puppies like I do or snakes and tigers, as long as he likes animals.

7) He has to be a one-woman man

I’ve seen how cheating and polygamy destroys lives. It’s not fair to anyone and so sad too. Maybe in an unserious relationship, it’s okay to decide on an open policy. But if you get to the serious stage, then I think it’s quite stupid. Too many people use sex as an excuse. But to me, it’s an excuse to sleep with young good looking people who would never want to be commited to you and go home to you aging spouse with security. It’s a case of having your cake and eating it too. Well, boo hoo, love doesn’t work that way in my world.

He has to surprise me all the time

Sometimes, just when you think you know someone inside out, they suddenly do the sweetest things to surprise you. It doesn’t have to be an expensive present. It might be just something you say or something you do. Even the smallest things make the biggest differences sometimes. Like if someone stays up late just to talk to you. These things mean the world to me.

9) He has to be adventurous and versatile

Skydiving? Killer roller-coaster? Swimming with baby dolphins? Horseback-riding? He’s game. But he doesn’t limit himself. He will bring me to the most expensive restaurant in town to celebrate. But he will have as much fun watching football on TV or playing PS games at home with me with a pizza and beer. He will try to sneak backstage with me at a Dishwalla concert AND laugh when the 6′ 7 " security guy grabs him by the collar and throws him out. That’s the guy I know I’m going to remember forever, even if things don’t work out.

10) Above everything, everything, my perfect man has to love me very deeply

He has to love it when I smile, when I laugh. I want a guy who smiles to himself when he watches me smile. He has to love how I make him laugh. He has to care about me and know that I care about him. He has to protect me from the world and not let anything happen to me within his control. He wants to come home to me and go to bed at night, knowing that I’m right next to him and tomorrow will be okay afterall, even though the roof may be leaking and the mortgage may be out of control. And when he closes his eyes, he knows he loves me and I love him.

*sigh* Where are you? Where are you? Lol. I have better luck taking over Bill Gates at Microsoft even with my technological-retardedness than being with my perfect man. Haha, at this point, there’s not much of a consolation. But I guess I’ll settle for the fact that being lonely is better than being heartbroken. At least, I hope it’s a fact…

                                                         

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